It's funny how people we LOVE hurt you intentionally
and they still come back to tell you it was intentional.
Most times they tell
you that you pushed them into doing it
Firstly, it will be good to note that the offended
party did what he/she did out of annoyance, and this is as a result of
com-mutated offences (which of course you might not be conscious of) which has
been stored in their sub-consciousness (of course they love you and wouldn't
want to keep the record of your offenses) in time past, now after hurting you
intentionally, their conscience spring into action and condemned them. The very
first thing that goes on in your mind is the disappointment you've found in them
(considering the fact that they must have offended you too in time past, but
you did not hold them responsible for it because you love them) and this in
turn will make them lose some percentage of the respect you have for them (at
least for that moment) and then anger comes in. WHY?
Because you will feel cheated, at this moment, you
will want to regret those times you didn't hold them responsible for their
wrong deeds towards you, you feel like a fool who can't voice out when hurt
(trust me, these thoughts hurt).
One of the best shorts you have at this moment is to
calm your nerve and express your feelings (but try not to hurt back with the
word of your mouth when doing this, else you'll be worse than the other party),
don't pretend like it's nothing when it hurts, let them know you're hurt,
forgive and let it go, cos if you don't let it go, it will hurt more.
Focus on your love for them and close your eyes
towards the hurting event.
But how will someone who has never felt the power of
forgiveness forgive fellow human? You can't give what you don't have, he that
can not forgive himself can not forgive others
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